Encarta Dictionary defines “values” as the “accepted principles or standards of a person or group.” Your values represent your philosophy, demonstrate your integrity, explain your actions, and form the basis for your stand on cultural, contemporary, political, and spiritual issues.
It is the eye by which you interpret your world. Your values are typified by the importance or price you place on sincerity, trustworthiness, fairness, respect, obedience, and loyalty. It is also exemplified by your stand on integrity, indecency and lies. It rears its head during conversations and explains your allowable limits during interactions with the opposite sex. For example;
“Can I give you a kiss?” Sandra’s boss asked her.
“And after the kiss, what next Sir,” she bluntly inquired.
“Just a kiss,” he said.
“Well, there are no casual kisses for me,” she iterated allowing her tone give her displeasure. She picked up her files and walked towards the door.
“And Sir,” turning around to face him, “It never stops at just kissing!”
“Sandra,” the raise pitch showed his surprise, “but I do that with the other ladies.”
“Sir, that is the core of the issue,” she asserted, “Others may, but I cannot!”
Our values are at the centre of our interactions. The three great revealers of values are money, power, and fame. In the case of money, I often iterate that there are no proud beggars—humility and poverty often go hand in hand. The absence of money may impose a temporary state of humility of a man, but prosperity unveils true character. The same is true about power and fame—a new job, a change of status, and popularity exposes hidden values.
Your values are therefore the pillars that support or hold-up your relationships. Men of different values cannot walk or work together. A very distinct value system generates unique criteria for determining who you can call friends. If any kind of person—different convictions, strange outlooks, or incompatible dreams—can become your intimate friend, it’s often an indication of a loose value system.
The seven questions that unveil your value system:
Tekena Ikoko
President/CEO
Single But Not Stupid Awareness Campaign
@tekenaikoko
It is the eye by which you interpret your world. Your values are typified by the importance or price you place on sincerity, trustworthiness, fairness, respect, obedience, and loyalty. It is also exemplified by your stand on integrity, indecency and lies. It rears its head during conversations and explains your allowable limits during interactions with the opposite sex. For example;
“Can I give you a kiss?” Sandra’s boss asked her.
“And after the kiss, what next Sir,” she bluntly inquired.
“Just a kiss,” he said.
“Well, there are no casual kisses for me,” she iterated allowing her tone give her displeasure. She picked up her files and walked towards the door.
“And Sir,” turning around to face him, “It never stops at just kissing!”
“Sandra,” the raise pitch showed his surprise, “but I do that with the other ladies.”
“Sir, that is the core of the issue,” she asserted, “Others may, but I cannot!”
Our values are at the centre of our interactions. The three great revealers of values are money, power, and fame. In the case of money, I often iterate that there are no proud beggars—humility and poverty often go hand in hand. The absence of money may impose a temporary state of humility of a man, but prosperity unveils true character. The same is true about power and fame—a new job, a change of status, and popularity exposes hidden values.
Your values are therefore the pillars that support or hold-up your relationships. Men of different values cannot walk or work together. A very distinct value system generates unique criteria for determining who you can call friends. If any kind of person—different convictions, strange outlooks, or incompatible dreams—can become your intimate friend, it’s often an indication of a loose value system.
The seven questions that unveil your value system:
- What are my likes and dislikes and which of my likes is also an uncompromising burning passion?
- What character traits do I like and dislike in people? What things will I not tolerate in a friend?
- What is my philosophy of life? What principles govern this philosophy and to what extent will I go in my stand and defence of these principles?
- What are my core moral, religious or spiritual convictions as it concerns money and sex? Where are my personal forbidden lines which I must not cross no matter the circumstances?
- What are my allowable limits when relating with the opposite sex and what is my definition of sexual purity before marriage, during courtship and after marriage?
- What are my current priorities in life? What are my short-term goals in view of my current priorities and what habits have I developed in view of my short-term goals?
- What do I consider to be my lifelong goals? Are they relative or fixed? What measures have I taken to ensure that they are met?
Tekena Ikoko
President/CEO
Single But Not Stupid Awareness Campaign
@tekenaikoko
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